When life kicks you in the teeth, release a hot air balloon!

Setback, great disappointment, unexpected traumatic events can hit us all from time to time.

You could be all gung ho towards setting up a business, and suddenly for no apparent reason your business partner (You thought) backs out at the last minute, as happened recently to me.

You could meet someone nice, thought you hit it off, start the communication and then hear nothing back? That also happened to me recently. People let us down, disappointing events happen, and when they do it can feel like your whole World has torn you apart, like what’s the point of carrying on, what the point of trying anymore?

So what are we to do when these things happen to us?

Well my first strategy is to try not to ‘react’ in haste and over do my response. When I react and respond too quickly it mostly will and normally does backfire, especially with ‘other people’ issues, as we all really if we are honest have quite delicate egos.

So the best strategy I have found is too take some time out, in my case try and not to respond for a couple of days, get some extra sleep and then carry on with other normal and positive activity as much as I can to take my mind of what happened.

As the saying goes “Rest if you must but don’t you quit” …. Get back out there in the fray as soon as you can, brush yourself off, pick yourself back up, smile at yourself in the mirror, go out and buy yourself something, give some help to someone else, reconnect with you “real” friends.

“As the saying goes “Rest if you must but don’t you quit” …. Get back out there in the fray as soon as you can, brush yourself off, pick yourself back up, smile at yourself in the mirror, go out and buy yourself something, give some help to someone else, reconnect with you “real” friends”.

Yes it does hurt when life kicks us in the teeth, and it normally happens when we least expect it, but guess what, if we let go of any expected outcomes and get on with ‘other life things’, hard as it is at first, the healing process is happening even through the pain, we just have to be busy and believe all is going to turn out ok eventually, and it usually does.

Like this morning, I got a little lovely message on Skype from a friend I thought had forgotten me, that bought a big smile to my face. Even writing this blog post is healing! In fact that’s another coping strategy when difficult thinks happen…….. Write! For example you could write a letter to the person or thing that has let you down, served you the horrible event that you did not want and tell them what an absolute Bast**d they are, how indignant you feel, how offended you are, get it all out in the open….. just DON’T SEND IT! Keep it on your PC for a bit and then when ready delete it., do this as a ritual to help eliminate the pain from your experience if you find it helps? It can.

By following some of these proven coping strategies not only can you cope with such events, you will also be letting them go with your blessing and invite other new good experiences in your life.

The final strategy  probably the most important of them all is to forgive yourself and the other party for what happened, you can just do this in your mind initially for your own mental health! Even if at first you feel you have done nothing wrong, you need to set things right with the Universe.

So ask those higher powers to forgive you for your part, whether you are spiritual or not, what you are doing is releasing yourself from any negative karma that was attached to the event and allowing healing, goodness and right thinking to take its place.

It reminds me of a healing technique taught to me by a wise friend years ago that I still practice to this day and it goes like this: At the end of each day just before you go to sleep, review your day in your mind, if you find anything, any event where you thought or did anything that might have been inappropriate, or contributed negatively perhaps in some way to a negative outcome, or pushed the old lady on the bus whist you were hurrying to work, or swore at the guy in the car in front who suddenly jumped out in front of you, you get the picture? When you review back the experience, say in your mind the following mantra “Forgive me, forgive me, forgive me, thank you, thank you, thank you, 3 times for each event that disturbed you”.

When you review back the experience, say in your mind the following mantra “Forgive me, forgive me, forgive me, thank you, thank you, thank you, 3 times for each event that disturbed you”

My friend went on to share the analogy of a hot air balloon pegged to the ground and that when we do and think wrong, or maybe did, those actions, those thoughts are like when you bang a peg in the ground holding down the hot air balloon so it cannot fly freely, and by asking forgiveness and thanking the universe for the experience you are in effect paying off your negative karma and releasing the pegs that hold back your own life, allowing you to fly freely like a liberated hot air balloon; to wake up fresh alive and feeling released and forgiven the next day.

Try it, it works every time.

And why say “Thank you”? Well it’s another lesson you had to learn, another event that hopefully you will learn from, so you are thanking the universe for the experience, planting the lesson in your wisdom cells and allowing yourself permission to move on.

Even if the negative feelings linger on for a bit after the event, by doing the ‘practice’ of ‘forgiveness and thank you’ as a ritual, you are doing what is the right thing to do, you are setting things right and moving on, it’s the practice that counts, not the feeling.

If you look at someone carrying a lot of pain, who did not let go, but held on too all the negativity, you can see it etched in their sad grey faces, on the other hand if you look at the face of someone who has survived the trauma, learnt to let go, renew and trust, you may see someone who once was in pain, however normally you will also see wisdom, character, more colour in the cheeks, a twinkle in their eye and a smile on their face that says, I may have scars, however I am free.

The thing is it may sound like a bit of hard work doing some of these things forgiveness and thank you practices, the facts are however we live in a difficult World, not so nice things happen to us all from time to time as they do to others, and by clearing your soul of the parts relating to you, you are in effect allowing good feeling, good actions to have more room than the negativity that otherwise would hold you back and take hold of you.

You are giving ‘good’ more room to have more dominance in your life going forward, you are leaving a zone of clear enlightened air around you so good nice things, events and feelings feel more at home with you. You are preventing your body and mind from being a home for all things negative.

Tell those nasties to go take a hike, you are off ballooning in the sunshine today!

Have a blessed day ahead x ~ Bernard  T.

© 2017 Bernard Taylor
First published  Oct 9, 2012

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